7.17.2015

Conversation #203: So I married my mom

I don't know if people say this to men, but I heard a lot while growing up that girls tend to marry someone like their dad (I guess good, bad, or ugly).  I don't know how true that really is, but relatively early on in our marriage, my husband and I realized I married my mom.

This doesn't mean my husband is feminine or my mother masculine, but to say that they seem to be the same person.  I am definitely more like my dad personality wise so it probably make sense that I married someone more like my mom.  Now I will say my mom, being an actual woman, generally makes her a bit more empathetic and understanding to the eccentricities of being a woman.  I don't think any man, my husband or otherwise, will ever be able to understand the intricacies of being a woman. However, I also feel like he can talk to my mom, and being that they have both lived with me and seem to speak the same language,  can benefit from her wisdom and knowledge of co-habitating with me and enlighten him better on the ways of women, specifically me :)

One of the biggest things both of these special people have contributed to my life is that they love me unconditionally.  My mom loved me through some tough times when I struggled daily (really every minute) and asked some tough questions.  My mom's love and grace, and I'm sure her trust in the Lord, saw me through some dark times (that I may eventually share...I feel like God is working on my heart a bit).  My husband, likewise, has done the same.  I know I have tried over and over in our marriage (even before being married) to destroy our relationship with hurtful words and actions (well allowed Satan and my flesh to win) and his grace and trust in the Lord has kept him around too; I honestly don't know why sometimes.  You see, none of us is perfect, I'm not saying they are, but I am so glad they allow God/the Holy Spirit to indwell in them so they offer His fruits to me.  My daily prayer is that I do that for them and others.  I am glad to have them in my life.

Oh, and one last funny comment on the similarities of my husband and mother...I am currently 23 (almost 24 weeks pregnant) and my parents were here last week to help watch our toddler while his daycare provider was on vacation.  One day in particular I looked in the mirror and told my mom I felt huge, and instead of saying something like "oh you look great, your not that big" she said, "well you are kind big for this stage."  Oh I love my mom and know she didn't mean anything mean, but my husband said something similar a few weeks ago because yes, he hasn't learned yet!

Anyway, did you marry your dad, mom, sibling?  Tell me!